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Homeward bound with a slight hitch

 

     DH claims he’s sane and has the paperwork to prove it.  I think that paperwork might need redoing.  The hospital is driving him crazy.  He’s trying to get his mother released before her benefits run out.  They want to add another elderly person to their profit margin. 

     It is my belief that no hospital, rehab facility, or nursing home should be run for profit.  When it comes down to a company’s profit margin, which is what always comes first.  Not the patient, not the patient’s family, to heck with the Hippocratic Oath, do no harm, they want money.

     The psychiatrist who ‘talked’ to my mother in law today pushed her panic button.  He mentioned selling her house. 

     This poor woman has a not very nice neighbor who has been trying to get her to sell him her house for the last five years.  His methods have been heavy handed and, for her, scary.  He’s backed off since DH, his best friend, and I had a few conversations with him.  We used the words attorney, police, and terroristic threats during our conversations with him.  I was not nearly as nice as the men were when I spoke to him.  I’ve dealt with too many bullies over the years.

     So naturally, when this doctor mentioned selling, her first thought was that the doctor now wanted her house.  This put her in panic mode.  Do you blame her?  It took DH several conversations with the ‘powers that be’ to explain her reaction.

     So far, she’s still going home on Saturday.

Is she crazy?

 

     My mother in law is 83.  She lives with her Border terrier in a nice home.  This woman pays all her bills and even pays her cable and fuel oil ahead for the year.  When she needs something done around the house that DH or I can’t do she hires someone to do it.  She takes care of her dog.

     Now, because she fell, banged her head, and had the good sense to call 911 she’s in a rehab hospital.  They have dosed her daily with laxatives and now claim she can’t hold her bowels.  (Could you if someone gave you Colace every day?)  She fell because she had an infection, which is now under control.

     She wants to go home.  She’s told them numerous times that she wants to go home.  Personally, I think she’d be better off in an assisted living place but that’s not my call.

      She’s not highly educated; she quit school in the eighth grade.  Nor is she the brightest light in the harbor, but she does do well in her own home.  Over the years, I have come to realize that she’s mildly agoraphobic.  Being in a hospital situation frightens her.  She’s easily intimidated. 

     Today they told DH she could go home on Saturday.  A few hours later, they decided that they should have a psychologist check her to see if she’s competent.  My problem with this is that most questions they will ask her are not relevant to her.

     She doesn’t read books and she stopped her paper when the delivery guy started leaving her paper where she couldn’t get to it even after numerous complaints.  She knows what year it is; she’s a bit fuzzy on the day, but heck, so am I most of the time.  When you don’t work at a job outside the home, the ‘day’ isn’t that important.  She watches the six o’clock news and her soap operas and is content.

     She wants to go home where she’s comfortable.  She wants to be with her dog.  She wants to sleep in her own bed.  Is she crazy?

Update on MIL’s latest hospital stay

 

     DH’s mother is out of the hospital and in another rehab hospital.  This one has a ranking of five stars in all categories.  They tell us she should be able to go home in less than two weeks.  She will be happy to be home, her dog will be happy she’s home, and we will be happy too. 

     She only suffered a minor bump on her head when she fell, and she fell because of an infection.  The infection made her dizzy.  They are treating her infection and keeping her until her strength returns.  DH goes to see her every morning and talks to her on the phone in the evening.

Just when we think things are looking up…

 

     Splat!  Another disaster hits.  DH’s mother is back in the hospital.  I may or may not be posting over the next week.  I hope I will but that all depends on how much rest we get around here.  Knowing his mother and Aunt, we won’t get much. 

     His Aunt phoned us about twenty times today.  We got a little tired of telling her we had no news and probably won’t have any until tomorrow afternoon.  (That would be later today, since I am typing this at 1:30 a.m.)

     So much for having any time to get things done, we needed to do this week.  It looks like we’ll be rushing around again.  A list, I need to make a list…

Warning about Tea Tree oil products for MS patients

 

     Yesterday DH was suddenly weaker than normal.  After he showered tonight he could barely stand up.  A few hours later, he couldn’t stand up.  In fact his legs and arms didn’t want to work at all.  This very sudden onset  led me to believe it was something new in the house that caused the problem and not his MS.

     I think we found the culprit.  There was only one new thing around here.  He got his hair cut yesterday and they used a conditioner on his hair containing Tea Tree Oil.  He liked it and bought a bottle.  He used it again tonight.

     I did some research and found that sometimes people are hypersensitive to Tea Tree Oil and can have muscle weakness and tremors from using it.  I’m betting that with his MS, DH is hypersensitive to it.  He won’t use it again and we’ll see if his strength comes back. 

     At this point, we will take the bottle of conditioner back (it wasn’t cheap) and ask for a refund we will also tell them they need to warn customers that there can be a side effect.  From now on he will tell anyone who cuts his hair to NOT use any product containing Tea Tree Oil on him.

Update on the snow removal and ServiceMagic

 

     I was quite surprised, since today was Sunday, that we received a call from one of the places that ServiceMagic had given us.  The woman even drove past my MIL’s house and gave us an estimate for the work there.  Then she came by our house to do an estimate for our sidewalk.

     Both estimates were very reasonable.  We hired her.  Now we don’t have to worry about traveling across town to clear off the mother in law’s walks every time it snows.  This company will do it.  Our snow angel can take a well deserved rest too.  What a load off our minds.

     I know I’ll go to ServiceMagic again in the future for other things we might need to have done.  They prescreen all the pros they send to you.  They list people who do everything from remodeling homes to house cleaning. 

     I will have to tell my neighbor’s son about ServiceMagic, maybe he can list his business with them.

DH considers discontinuing Avonex

 

     DH has been on Avonex for many years, since way back when his now secondary progressive MS, was relapsing remitting.  Lately he’s had a terrible time the day after his weekly injection.  That first morning after he’s much weaker, can’t walk, or even sit up and in general, feels like crap.  These are not the flu-like symptoms often connected with the use of Avonex.  He had those in the early days of his Avonex use.  These are different.

     This worries me since Avonex can prevent further damage to the nerves.  However, DH is determined.  He has agreed to discuss this with his neurologist and I plan to be there when he does.  I’ve done tons of research, hit all the MS sites I could find, and yet there is very little information on secondary progressive MS and what can happen if one discontinues the use of Avonex at this stage. 

     I plan to bring a list of questions, what ifs, what we might have to expect if he stops the drug.  I also plan to ask about Fampridine, if the FDA approves it, when it will be available. 

     I would appreciate hearing from people who have secondary progressive MS and their reactions to the information and care they have available.

Happy New Year!

A toast!

      A toast to my dear readers…

     May most of your wishes be granted.

     I’d never say all, for a person needs to dream.

     Good health.

     Long life.

     May the love of friends and family warm you.

     Smell the roses.

     Dance as if no one is looking.

     Sing with joy.

     Keep your feet on the ground and your head in the clouds.

     And please keep on coming back here.

Today she would’ve been 52

 

Mary    

 

 If  Mary had survived her last fight with breast cancer that took her away so young she’d be 52.  She didn’t, she lost that battle in 2001.  Her lively sense of humor will never brighten a room again.  In her memory, and as a favor to me, please click on the Keep a Breast icon at the bottom right hand side.

Misery loves company

 

     Today Dear Hubby is off to the oral surgeon.  I get to go along because I’m his designated driver.  This is going to be fun—NOT.  For one thing, as I stated in an earlier post, dentists are a phobia with him and oral surgeons are worse.  I can sympathize with him since I’ve had four impacted wisdom teeth removed and two others.  However, neither dentist nor oral surgeons bother me.

     I do dread the next week or so since men are such babies when they are feeling miserable.  When I had my wisdom teeth out, I spent two whole days being miserable and then cooked meals, cleaned the house, did dishes, and went back to work.  The last time DH had teeth removed he was down and out for at least a week.

     All I can say is thank heavens these are the last of his teeth.  I’d be willing to take bets that he’ll be feeling a darned sight better once they are gone than he has in a long while too.

Fun at the vet or Chicken Dog has a bad day

 

     Another sleep deprived day.  Dear Hubby woke me early to say that Gavin’s face was still swollen but not quite as much as last night.  I had him call the vet while I showered and dressed.  We had the choice of going in around 11 a.m. to see a vet who hasn’t seen our dogs nor does he know us, or wait until 2:45 to see our favorite vet.  We chose the 2:45 appointment.  Gavin doesn’t care who it is he sees he doesn’t want to be there anyway.

     Gavin loves to ride in the car, but he hates going to the vet’s office.  I thank my lucky stars that he doesn’t have to go often.  When we arrive, he’ll hop out of the car, mark the porch steps, walk inside, sit on the scale long enough to give a paw and have his weight checked, and all is hunky dory until I begin to walk him to an exam room.  He puts on the brakes and drops to the floor.  You can offer him all the cookies in the world and he won’t get to his feet and walk.

     If you’ve ever wondered why a vet’s office has slippery floors, it’s for chicken dogs.  They slide along rather nicely.  Of course, one looks like a cruel person while one drags a flattened, floor hugging, 65 pound dog across the waiting room.  The only time he’ll get to his feet is when you cross the threshold of the exam room and he decides it’s time to leave.  DH has learned to close the door fast.  (Now you know why I drag DH along.) 

     While we wait for the vet to come in, Gavin tries to hide under the chair DH is sitting on.  Heck, he even tried to crawl under my purse.  When the vet came in, I was sitting on the floor with 65 pounds of shaking, shedding, white dog on my lap.  He shed enough fur to knit another dog in the few minutes we waited.  I’ve never had a vet phobic dog before so bear with me.  Gavin won’t look our vet in the face even when bribed with the tastiest of treats. 

     The vet wanted to look in Gavin’s mouth—well, let’s say he wanted to, tried to, but then broke down into the giggles and asked if we had a jack.  I suggested a crow bar.  Gavin was NOT going to open his mouth.  The scenario is that we all hope it’s a bee sting or something to that effect.  However, in case it is an infection the vet decided he had to do something.

     One antibiotic shot and a couple of prescriptions later we were out off there.  Gavin hauled ass to get out of the building, and pile into the car.  I’m to call them every day to let them know how Chicken Dog is and if the swelling doesn’t go down and Gavin isn’t back to his old self in a few days we’ll go back.  They will sedate him to take a good look in his mouth.  {Sigh}  Since the day he arrived, this dog has never been ‘easy.’

MIL update home and happy

 

     Though getting around for her is not as easy as it was before her fall, my MIL is happy to be home.  Her stay at Liberty Nursing and Rehabilitation had turned her into a nervous wreck.  My MIL is a shy woman who isn’t used to hearing people bicker constantly.  She certainly wasn’t used to the potted geranium treatment—talking over her as if she wasn’t there.  Now she’s lavishing attention on her elderly Border terrier (who missed her something awful) and she’s happy.  You can’t beat that.

     Dear Hubby goes over every morning and they have breakfast together.  He then insists she do her exercises.  That doesn’t thrill her but she does them while grumbling the whole time.  Happily, she’s getting stronger every day.