Is she crazy?

 

     My mother in law is 83.  She lives with her Border terrier in a nice home.  This woman pays all her bills and even pays her cable and fuel oil ahead for the year.  When she needs something done around the house that DH or I can’t do she hires someone to do it.  She takes care of her dog.

     Now, because she fell, banged her head, and had the good sense to call 911 she’s in a rehab hospital.  They have dosed her daily with laxatives and now claim she can’t hold her bowels.  (Could you if someone gave you Colace every day?)  She fell because she had an infection, which is now under control.

     She wants to go home.  She’s told them numerous times that she wants to go home.  Personally, I think she’d be better off in an assisted living place but that’s not my call.

      She’s not highly educated; she quit school in the eighth grade.  Nor is she the brightest light in the harbor, but she does do well in her own home.  Over the years, I have come to realize that she’s mildly agoraphobic.  Being in a hospital situation frightens her.  She’s easily intimidated. 

     Today they told DH she could go home on Saturday.  A few hours later, they decided that they should have a psychologist check her to see if she’s competent.  My problem with this is that most questions they will ask her are not relevant to her.

     She doesn’t read books and she stopped her paper when the delivery guy started leaving her paper where she couldn’t get to it even after numerous complaints.  She knows what year it is; she’s a bit fuzzy on the day, but heck, so am I most of the time.  When you don’t work at a job outside the home, the ‘day’ isn’t that important.  She watches the six o’clock news and her soap operas and is content.

     She wants to go home where she’s comfortable.  She wants to be with her dog.  She wants to sleep in her own bed.  Is she crazy?

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Posted on March 30, 2010, in Misc, My blog and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. Sounds like a plan to me bout lettin your MIL go home bet the dog misses her. Tell her GOD speed in going home.

    She can’t wait to go home.

  2. Get a lawyer to write/call to inform them of her rights.

    Doesn’t it suck that one has to resort to lawyers?

  3. I think when you have reached 83 you have earned the right to make your own decisions, even if it seems illogical to the “experts”. Good Luck to her (and you 🙂 )

    I agree. I know that when the time comes and I can’t do the things I need to do, I will look into assisted living. However, I’m not my MIL.

  4. Sounds to me like they’re trying anyway they can to keep her in a hospital setting…bottom line…$$$$. As long as she can do most things for herself including cooking cleaning and personal care, those “experts” need to keep their noses out of her business, imho.

    I too believe the bottom line is $$$$. I particularly dislike the head games they playing with her.

  5. oh definitely, those head games…and get a psychiatrist involved and it gets worse. Sheesh…. my heart goes out to her and her furbaby.

    So far it seems that they are letting her go home on Saturday. Finally!

  6. OK, that’s terrifying – being capable and managing and suddenly being deemed feeble – chills me to the core. I’m completely unable to provide any good advice, but I will hope (to my toes) that she’s home on Saturday.

    It is frightening isn’t it?

  7. Glad to hear they are releasing her on Saturday. Seems more like a prison these days when you have to wait for the Dr. to parole you.

    Now you know why I have no intention of going into one ever again. They will have to carry me in kicking and screaming.

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